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Do you ever think to yourself: ‘Why am I in such a situation? Why me? And why not my colleague, my friend, my classmate, but why does this happen to me in particular?’ Most of the time it’s something that you did not want, that you did not hope for, that you don’t like, but it happens. Because if it was something that you wanted, the question ‘why’ is often not that relevant. For instance, when your day goes as planned, do you also ask the question ‘why’: ‘Why did my day go as planned?’ Or you had a job interview that went very well, do you also ask God: ‘God why did my job interview go so well?’ Often that question is not that important. It is important in a situation that you do not understand. For instance, you had the job interview and you did not get the job despite the fact that you did your best to make a good impression. Or you get sick and you cannot do certain things anymore. When you find yourself in such circumstances, you might wonder: ‘Why does this happen to me?’ And that’s what I want to talk about: How do you deal with such circumstances?
And to answer that question, I want to refer to Liberatie 60, regel 1 tot 2:
“Blijf niet hangen in het ‘waarom’ van je realiteit. Je hebt meer baat bij zoeken naar hoe je dat gegeven kunt benutten tot je profijt”
So, when you find yourself in circumstances that feel difficult, that you did not want, that you don’t like. When you focus on the question ‘why’, you will become often fed up with the situation. Because you keep on thinking: ‘Why me? Why not someone else?’ But if you rather focus on the question ‘how’, ‘how can I deal with this situation in such a way, that something good comes from it for myself or the people around me?´ Then you can become grateful for circumstances that you would otherwise become fed up with. That you will become angry: ‘Why God did you let this happen to me?’ Instead, you will feel grateful because you can see something goods comes from it. For instance, that you realise the job I applied for, which I thought was the job of a lifetime, in hindsight, I realize the job did not suit me. So, not getting the job was perhaps the best thing that happened to me. Or that you get sick and you have to take it easy, but that it offers you wonderful insights how to change certain aspects of your life. Which make you feel better, more positive, more relaxed.
So, focusing on the question ‘how’ instead of keep on thinking ‘why’, gives you much more fulfilment, energy. And that’s what God wants to give you.